Hanging out with my girlfriends has become such a rare instance, but is a reality that I've sadly grown accustomed to. I met most of my closest girlfriends back in Binghamton University where cheap beer at Tony's and fight inducing scorpion bowls at The Rat were nightly indulgences. Even the trips to the local GIANTS supermarket were entertaining - the 100% non-meat frozen chicken fingers, Lynda's famous hummus pots and Zandra's staple Spaghetti ingredients. There's was just something comforting about living, drinking, eating, dancing, flirting and even studying with girlfriends.
I wish I could say that we've kept it up and are an intertwined social unit like the women from Sex in the City or even Friends, but the truth is, we're all knee-deep in our own lives and we hardly get to see each other. For instance, the last time I was actually in Zandra's apartment (who lives in the upper east side) was 2 years ago on New Year's Eve. Time just seems to zip by and before you know it, a whole month has passed by. What's worse is the less you hang out, the less you have to talk about. I know it seems backwards, but it's true. I have this theory that the less time you spend together, the less things you experience together and therefore the time that you actually do spend together is spent catching up - how's work? how are the kids? what have you been up to? You lose the little inside jokes or the ability to finish each other's sentences.
So does growing older necessarily mean growing apart? I don't think so. After all, what's more valuable - seeing somebody 5 times a week over endless rounds of cheap booze, or seeing somebody once a month during life defining moments such as child birth, marriage and divorce. Just because a bond gets older, doesn't mean it gets weaker. It may seem slightly rough around the edges to the undiscerning eye, but underneath it's solid as a rock and capable of standing the test of time.We may not see each other everyday or have dinner parties on a weekly basis like Carrie and Samantha, but I can have a rotten day and all I have to do is pick up the phone and everything will be better.